In any relationship, people have to be able to trust each other. Trust builds from proving to each other that you’re responsible and dependable.

In a trusting relationship:

• You share information with your partner without worrying that they’ll share it with others or gossip about it.
• You don’t repeat any confidential information your partner tells you (unless keeping a secret puts them in danger).
• You feel comfortable and safe around the person.
• You don’t feel belittled or hurt when you’re together.

If your relationship lacks trust, it’s hard to get close to the other person and to rely on them for support. Lack of trust can involve:

• Second-guessing and not believing each other.
• Betrayal by sharing secrets.
• Obsessively checking on the other person.
• Feeling uncomfortable telling your partner something out of fear of being judged.

For example, if you’re worried your significant other is cheating on you, constantly checking their phone messages to make sure they’re not texting or calling someone else means you don’t trust them. A better solution is to communicate your concerns and develop a greater sense of trust.

Trust relates back to the ABCs:

• Awareness — This includes instincts. Always trust your instincts.
• Balance — You must have a relationship built on mutual trust.
• Choices — Trust that you’re making the right decisions and follow through with them.

Trust eventually leads to the third building block: respect.

Last reviewed: October 2019